You can't unscramble eggs.

I have been married to Brian, who is my second husband. This seems to stick in craw of some legalistic believers.
Now this is not a statement to provide an opportunity for those to spew forth a vitriolic diatribe against extreme religions by any means. Not all strict Christians fall into this thought.
Some believe that if you do not have a biblical divorce ie you weren't the one cheated on, then you can never to remarry.
I know of a couple who had children but their church convinced them to divorce, live separately and never re-marry. Have you ever heard the saying, "Two wrongs don't make it right"? Well here is a perfect example.

I had a low point where I was almost convinced that they may be right. Brian was out of town working and I was home alone, miserable without him.

I tried to keep busy and sometimes cleaned house until 2 & e am until I could fall asleep exhausted. 

As I was on my hands and knees, crying and scrubbing the white linoleum floor in the kitchen, I began praying. I confessed my willfulness in the whole mess. If I could be shown that Brian & I should not stay married, then I would obey even if it killed me.

The next day was Wed. And off I went to the church library to look for a book. I found one, ironically written by a Church of Christ preacher. That may seem a sure going over to the extreme but once I read the cover jacket, I came to the conclusion that this preacher  actually had the harsher beliefs at one time but had come to a true Christlike understanding. Some beliefs where the same and some views where changes. I can't remember the name of it but I will try and find out.

I also mentioned my quest to Carl & Evie who were going through a course to help others that were going through marriage problems. Carl was also struggling with the same question concerning one of his family members. Unbeknownst to me, he mentioned this matter to Brother Barry Chinn. As a result, he actually felt led to change his message for that night.

Message 1 received.

After service, he invited Carl, Evie & I out to dinner at IHOP. I told them the whole mess. Carl had questions for himself.

I felt a lot clearer afterwards but I still wanted to read the book.

Message 2 received.

I devoured the book that night and was surprised by what was revealed to Message 3 received.

Years ago, Brian and I where told by our pastor in AL, Brother Ragsdale, that our sin and willfulness is what needed confession. He had seen Brian & I grow in the Lord and seen our lives being blessed. Those who try to force is to divorce to make what they believe in their hearts have not fully understood the forgiveness and grace of Christ's love.

My own mother, Doreen, who has been a strict believer all my life, told me the two most important statements off all time concerning this matter. They are:

  "Two wrongs don't make it right"

  "You can't unscramble eggs"

I have always been taught that if the Bible had it three times then you need to pay attention. I had my 3 signs/messages.

Brian & I are married, we have been together for almost 18 years and those scrambles eggs taste better every year.

"Let no man tear asunder"