I found my perfect match!

So, you think you have found the one. 

You have so much in common, you have talked/texted all night and all day all week, they are blah blah blah.....

Look, we all have something in common, some more than others. In the exciting haze of getting to know one another, your hormones are in the driver's seat. 

If you are doing heavy petting to having sex, you are compounding emotions control and you are not using your brain. I can take months to truly know a person and by waiting on heavy petting and sex, you are forced to get to know someone and all their warts. Hopefully you get to meet their family and see how they treat them and vice versa as this can tell a lot about a person and what kind of conflicts you can expect to get into in the future.

How do they talk about their past relationships?

If they have kids, how active are they in their lives and do they work at getting along with their ex?

How do they treat their friends, co-workers, ect.?

Is everything everyone elses fault?

Does everything they say solicit sympathy? (Big warning)

Do they push you to have sex?

Is every argument your fault? 

How fast do they say "I love you"?

How fast do they want to move in?

What is their job? How do they talk about it? 

And on and on.

And if you keep on having problems finding a healthy relationship, the problem starts with you.

Stop dating, get help in relationship counseling. Yes, on your own!